Thought of the day... and assorted random crap ^_^

Been awhile since I've posted, though really because I don't quite use my blog as a day to day diary thing, i guess that is to be expected. one can't be emotionally unstable, or thoughtful all the time. Lol well you can but i'm sure that leads to eventual madness... and I can't afford that quite yet. Lol i'm not rich enough for madness to be seen as merely being eccentric.

The power money has in the attachment of connotations. Think about it!

So anyways, was discussing with Joyce about a week ago concerning how people are defined. In big words, she found it unfair that male promiscuity is always seen in a, for the most part, more positive light than female promiscuity. In short... she hated that men who slept around were considered 'the man" while women who did the same thing were seen as sluts.

The way i view it, the reason that society treats men and women so differently lies in the roles men and women are expected to fulfill. And yes, you can throw the whole modern woman girl power ra ra ra line in my face, but truth be told, the roles expected of men and women in some ways have still remained greatly unchanged.

I am talking about the fact that men are supposed to be providers while women are seen as nurturers. The proverbial father figure and mother figure idea.

This point is fairly arguable, but here's my take on this.

In terms of these roles, the ideal man would be one who was capable, driven, strong. Capable of protecting, providing both for the financial needs (though this has changed somewhat with women now more determined to support themselves. That said, what woman would honestly not like their partner to be capable to support them if needed? I still believe that most women would find that attractive. not that their partner necessarily has to, but that if needed they can. Plus if he's rich he can buy you nice things right?) and emotional needs (Support, love, excitement ya know the usuals).

The thing is, arguably part of being the 'ultimate male' would be the capability to get alot of women. Now this is something that doesn't necessarily clash with the concept of loyalty which women do need... but I'll be honest with you. Women do seem to have an almost universal need to tamper or change their partners. Most would consider a man with a long list of "conquests" someone who'd be willing to change "just for them". The whole "he'd never do that to me... he loves me" thing.

Now this really is still a generalization, so all this would not necessarily apply to all women. But i'm arguing that as a matter of society in general it seems to me that therein lies one of the main reasons why men who are promiscuous (also known as man-whores, players etc.) are not seen in quite the same negative light.

Now in terms of women, ultimately the role still falls back to the whole mother figure ideal. A person to care for both them and their eventual children (lol though this is where things have kinda changed over the years... i'd still argue that this is still a valid concern) Now don't get me wrong, i'm not saying that a woman's role is still in the house and all that, rather its more on the emotional side of things. To care, to love etc. That sort of thing.

Why is this a factor in how women are treated in relation to sexual partners? Frankly i think its the idea that a man would not want a woman who's been sleeping around to be the mother of their children. Now this is in terms of long term commitment (which to me does mean marraige but people would disagree). Note though nowadays there is a difference when we talk about casual relationships, because then a person's sexual history wouldn't matter as much.

Still i do believe that its this 'mother' role that makes it more undesirable for women to be "sluts".

Realise this though, women are as guilty as men for the way things are. Women are as likely as men to call other women sluts and the like, so its not quite something where the men are oppresing the women. Women do a very good job of that too ya know.

Anyways that's enough from me. Do realise that once more this all really is just random musing, and it is based on generalities, but i do think there is something there. Feel free to drop me a comment or argue with me even :D i like discussions i do ^_^

laters all!
Ken